I had to rewind a bit to August and a weekend with cousin Finn staying at Grandma Jeans house for the weekened. Eli is such a good sport with his cousin. What other 12 year old will put on a blindfold and participate in his cousin's 5 year old birthday party game. Especially a 12 year old that is only a couple of inches away from being as tall as his 5 ft 9 mother.
Friday, October 24, 2014
Sunday, October 12, 2014
That About Says It...
Artwork is courtesy of Sidney....
"Those of us who
are Chinese adoptive parents cannot simply come home with our own incredible
blessing and then forget all the children who still wait. China gave us the
absolute honor to parent a child from that country, and I hope we will turn the
love we feel for our own children into action: to help even more incredible
kids find homes." Love Without Boundaries
Sunday, September 28, 2014
Saturday Night
Saturday night, a movie on cable I’ve seen bits of a million
times, and finally am sitting down to watch the whole thing. I’m thinking about
Sidney before she went to bed and watching her carrying her “caboodle,” everywhere. Think fishing tackle
box that’s pink and purple with princesses on the lid.
All ready for school. See you later mom!
All of her treasured
items. She can be found taking it upstairs at bedtime and hauling it back down
in the morning. Sometimes she sleeps with it next to her. The contents are
always changing but at any given time typically include hair accessories,
plastic necklaces, spare change inside a tin left over from mints, and plastic
necklaces. A girl never knows what she’s going to need. Sometimes I wish I
could lock my kids in childhood just a little longer.
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| Parade route ending on opposite side of town from the instrument case means a free concert in your car. |
In other news, I have to report that 1st Grade
and 7th grade have started smoothly. This year more than others is a
natural progression. 1st Grade means Sidney is on her second year of
day long school, and Eli is in the same place. We were convinced public school
was right for him until we starting putting more thought into the academic
side. It’s frightening when you start mapping it out in 7th grade,
planning how they will impact him by 12th grade.
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| Noodle time..... |
It’s also hard
enough to have size 12 shoes when you’re 12 years old, that. Eli just got
through telling me he’s fallen over backward in a chair in school three times
already in the month they’ve been back in school. Crazy!
Sunday, August 31, 2014
Jumping
A quick break from work waiting for my turn in the shower.
Sunday morning, and Sidney is in front of me flying a Lego Hello Kitty plane. A
typical day in the life from our home. Tom is on call, so I’m laboring on Labor
Day weekend, getting caught up on work
and doing laundry. There’s a quietness to weekends like this that I love.
Eli came back from a three day camp with his 7th grade class. My our amusement he recounted his experience zip lining. After much climbing and much shaking, he stood on the top, sat on the small platform and pulled himself off.
Eli came back from a three day camp with his 7th grade class. My our amusement he recounted his experience zip lining. After much climbing and much shaking, he stood on the top, sat on the small platform and pulled himself off.
My hands are sweating as I type. He’s more adventurous than
his mother, but he somehow put his fear of heights to the side. I’m proud of
him for trying. He has more of the adventurous
side like his dad, but I think Sidney will be our daredevil. She seems
completely unphased and is never afraid. I’m proud of Eli for facing his fear. This
is such an awkward, tough age. Nothing is straightforward in seventh grade when
your feet are a size 12, and your mother asks if you’ve grown again overnight.
I swear I see him getting bigger from night to morning.
I hear the water going off.
My turn.
My turn.
Monday, August 25, 2014
No Limits
I should be working, but there are moments that grab me
about my children. Whether its my son Eli explaining algebra homework, and
me internally sending up a prayer of thanks that he doesn’t struggle with
academics in the same way I did. Or seeing Sidney like this picture. I keep
saying if I had only known how okay looks at the beginning. But I guess this is
the good stuff that is the reward of parenting a child with any type of special
need. It’s incredible to have a child that for every
physical reason has very complex orthopedic needs but none are an obstacle in her everyday life.
They have nothing to do with having three fingers, four toes, and a missing
fibula bone, and everything to do with what a person can overcome when they are
without limits.
Tuesday, August 19, 2014
Skools In
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| Delivering supplies to school on Sunday. |
I’ve collapsed in my chair. Eli and I are enjoying the
silence that falls over the house after six year old chatter is quiet for the evening. Since
school started, we have bedtime routines back in place. Sidney
is bouncing off the walls about being back while Eli continues to mutter, in defiance, saying
something about the end of his freedom. I
have to admit I wasn’t really ready for having to be on a schedule again. I
work from our house, so our summer was very relaxed. Mom up at the crack of dawn for a few hours of uninterrupted work, breakfast, short play, tutoring for reading
in the morning, then lunch, and off to the public pool. Despite their age difference it’s something, a six and twelve year old enjoy equally.
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| Who's to stop a queen from blowing bubbles outside? |
And if you’re picturing us driving up to a beautiful pool
let me interrupt that thought. We live in Iowa. It’s the same pool I traveled
to on swim team when I was a kid. I’m 39, (and hanging on tight until next
month). The last time I was on swimteam I was 12. It’s old, but we don’t care. It’s
fun and is one environment that doesn't allow the kids to be parked inside the air conditioning in a sendetary zombie like state. It wares them down. Of course, there were always those moments when we saw an interesting
patron, and Eli turned to me and quietly said, “It’s called public for a reason Mom.”
So in between all of this, on July 13th, we celebrated
five years home with Tom’s parents by
lazing around outside on a nice Sunday afternoon. The girl rolling around outside
on Grandpa’s shop stool was barely recognizable in comparison to the person in
front of me in Changsha. The isolation and neglect of the world has been replaced by spunk and a child who loves life. I have tried writing this post a million times mulling over that day and always come back to the theme of never forgetting what goes on even though it's not in our backyard. Our society lacks awareness, and if I could change anything it would be this.
Tomorrow is coming sooner than I think. I promise to be a better blogger in the future, and especially for my most willing reader - my mother.
Tuesday, August 12, 2014
Hello!
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| Please note two things, the fact that Eli was sent immediately to wash his feet an that I purchased a pair of size 12 shoes for him this week. Then note the queen in her fiefdom. |
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